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Starting from scratch

So I had a blog already, this is actually my third…yes third but I don’t count the first because I literally put zero effort. I literally made two post and got discouraged after a month because no one read them so bye bye it went. “No one told me blogging would be sooo difficult!!” Now the second one is a different story. I put work into it, I was actually starting to enjoy blogging. I think I got a little to happy/comfortable. I started remodeling trying make it feel more inviting. I tried to be fancy and add another blog into my already existing one and well I. Don’t. Want. To. Talk. About it. 🤦🏽‍♀️you see it wasn’t adding the second blog that was the problem it was trying to make them both public is where i managed to fuck everything up! Don’t ask how because hell if I know but I have one of two options. One continue to be pissed or get up and try again. After all they do say third times the charm right?? So with that being said

Hey guys!! welcome to Rolling with Kiki. I’ll be sharing my life both as a wheelchair user and most importantly as a Christian. I’m not perfect, far from it but Jesus is. It’s been a long road and has been far from easy but I’m happy to share where he has brought me from and who I am becoming🦋 I love that I gave my life to Christ when I did. In these 3years I’ve learned so much about myself. Two things I’m currently learning is what god himself says about me and what my gifts are. Thank you god for the gifts you have placed inside of me, thank you for paying me no mind when I swore up and down I wasn’t good enough. I hope that my stories and full, raw transparency help you in one way or another

Disclaimer: I do curse, there is this rule that Christians aren’t supposed to curse but God is still working on me.

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American Christianity (Rant)

I’m a little annoyed today if I’m honest. Why?? Because, as I’m sitting here scrolling on Instagram, minding my business trying to Brainstorm for my next post. I come across not one but two videos of people talking about A rapper by the name of Lil Nas X. I’m pretty sure y’all know who he is by now but in case you don’t he wrote this song “old town Road.” Ring a bell?? I thought so. A few months after the song was rereleased this time obviously taking the world by storm, he announced to the world that he was gay. Then a few months later he said he wasn’t anymore. Then now that’s right, you guessed it, he is again…A few months ago he dropped his “ Satan shoes.” That’s literally the name of them.🙄 while this did irritate me, it wasn’t the icing on the cake. The icing on the cake for me was him doing a video literally dancing on the devil. His reasoning behind it was encountering mean Christians growing up. Telling him he’ll go to hell for being gay, using religion to push hate and not Christ to push love. As a new Christian myself, I want to do my best in making people feel loved but also not changing God’s word. I’m still learning as I go but this brings me to christianity in America. We are so watered down/ lukewarm here it’s ridiculous. We want everything to just be so Kumbaya that we’ll literally take anything. People in other countries are literally dying for their believes in christ, yet here we are in privileged America sitting back, eating grapes saying nothing. It’s ridiculous, isn’t America a Christian nation?? Why are we so comfortable with bold and blatant disrespect from Satan and his minions?? I mean seriously…how did we get here?? We’re at a point now where you don’t even have to go on a specific website to watch porn because it’s on your tv for free.🙄 They have drag queens in children cartoons. You even have Steve Harvey, One of the worlds biggest celebrities who claims to be a Christian telling people that Jesus is not the only way to heaven. What Bible are you reading sir?? Because the Holy Bible, the one you love to quote scripture from clearly states that the only way to heaven is through Jesus Christ. Does it not?? I mean seriously, how did we get here?? This isn’t a post bashing lgbt or Lil Nas X but a post simply asking where are the real Christians?? Jesus himself said if we are lukewarm he will spit us out. This is why I personally am doing everything I can to get it together. I don’t know about y’all, but when it gets hot here on earth I can’t take it. Imagine in hell where there’s no A.C. Fan, water or ice but there’s no way out??Y’all can play with eternity if you want but me?? I’m preaching the gospel exactly how it is.

Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other

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Christian Tick-Tock

TikTok, tiktok, tiktok…sigh where do I began??

Ever since Tiktok emerged I’ve tried my hardest to stay away from it. Nothing against it, I just didn’t want another app on my phone, in my mind this is just like vine and would be dead pretty soon like almost all the other apps that were once popular. But about 2months ago still in full lockdown I decided to give in. I was board out of my mind and needed a good laugh. I’m not gonna lie, since joining I’ve really been enjoying myself. There are so many gifted people on there, from singing, dancing, laughing until my stomach hurts and even helping in strengthening my walk with Christ. Which brings me here.

Christian Tiktok

Although Tiktok is filled with lots of laughter and joy, it’s also filled with the same amount of deception when it comes to christianity. It’s heartbreaking if you ask me. You have people on the with hundreds/thousands of followers telling people things like Jesus himself told them to tell their followers that being Gay is not a sin. In no way am I homophobic but we all know Jesus said no such thing. What he does say is “Come as you are.” Meaning we as humans no matter if we’re gay, straight, drug addicts, liars, thief’s, murderers etc. can have a relationship with him if we desire to. He won’t deny his love for us just because of our sin. In fact he’ll do the exact opposite, he’ll love on us so hard that we have no choice but to change. Not because he’s forcing us to but because we actually want to. It’s like being in a relationship. Have you ever had someone love you so good that you literally want to do everything you can for them, even on the days they upset you?? That’s the kind of love Jesus has for us and it is honestly The most beautiful thing I’ve ever experienced in my life. Something I truly want everyone to experience one day. You have others telling people that Jesus isn’t God and the scariest one I’ve seen so far is a man who thinks he actually is Jesus.🥺 This man really sits there telling people he’s Jesus and if they don’t follow him they’ll die. He tells them if they deny him himself as the true and living God they’re dumb and they will burn in hell forever. The Bible warns us that things like this are going to happen before his actual return but…wow it’s scary. To see everything unfold right before your eyes is just. It’s like a movie except ITS NOT A MOVIE! I’m speaking out on this because, as a new believer myself I know how hard it is. You don’t know what to believe, who to trust or what do, it can be so discouraging at times but I encourage you to read the word yourself and not just listen to what people say. A good translation for beginners is CSB. It has modern day language. If you want more of a Kjv feel but don’t fully understand it yet try the amplified Version. People rave about N. I.V as well. I personally don’t use it because certain scriptures or taken out or tampered with. But pray and ask the lord what’s best for you. Eternal life is nothing to play with. Please don’t let this app deceive you.

Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other🤝

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Be A Wife In Your Single Season

“For her price is far above rubies.”

Being single can be difficult at times, trust me I know. You’re talking to a girl who’s literally never been in a serious relationship. Situationship? Yes but a relationship where we go on dates, watch movies, fall asleep on the phone together? No, never. Sad right?? You know what’s even sadder?? I had my first kiss at 19 and hated it. Nothing bad happened, it just wasn’t with the right person and I knew it. But Yet and still I continued to put my lips on him every time we met up for the next 2 years. Searching and hoping for some kind of spark to find it’s way upon our lips but It never came. All that ever came were tears. Not from heartbreak but from frustration, anger and disrespect. Although I don’t like that I was in such a toxic situation I wouldn’t erase it even if I had the chance. It broke me so bad I had no other choice but to give my life to Christ. He has truly given me the strength, peace and healing I’ve been searching for my entire life. Because of him I now know my worth and the importance of walking in it. A few days ago I did a post called “ Good Men Do Exist” part 2 is coming soon but basically I talk about how Society says one thing but God says another. Today, I wanna talk about the importance of carrying yourself as a wife even while you’re single.

Be a wife in your singleness. This is something I’m personally working on now. Growing up I NEVER wanted to be married because I never seen a healthy example of a marriage but the closer I get to God, the more I actually want to be. I want my husband and i’s relationship to glorify Jesus in every way possible. I want our marriage to be the reason people we know give their lives to him. In order for this to happen there are things I must work on now, single so when he does come I’ll be ready to not only receive him but also love him the way he deserves.

Are You Wife Material?

Before you be so quick to answer yes, take a minute and really think about the question. When most women are asked this question we ten to list our accomplishments. We talk about

  • How many degrees we have
  • The job we have
  • How much money we make
  • The car we have
  • How we can cook good ect. While these are all amazing things and should definitely be celebrated they don’t necessarily make you wife material. We can have all these things and be a Delilah. For those of you who don’t know. Delilah was a sweet weapon of destruction. The Philistine rulers employed her as a weapon to capture Samson. She is selfish. She is not there for love or the relationship. She is there for herself and what she stands to gain for herself in the relationship. She is an opportunist. Also, she is sometimes in the relationship to prove something to others. Almost everything she does has a selfish motive behind it. She has her own agenda and hardly sacrifices for the relationship. She is captivating, enchanting, exciting and charming. She is beautiful and lively. She has a sweet personality. She knows what a man wants and she knows how to make a man feel good. She is a difficult person to resist. You would love to have her around you always but she will play with your mind and heart. She likes playing games in a relationship. She can make you do things that are against your morals. She lies a lot. I think y’all get the point. Sis is just pure evil smh.
What I’ve learned when men ask this question…

Even before my desire to get married came about. I have always been interested in the male mindset. I find it so intriguing. While some women complain about how stupid men are and how they just don’t understand us. I sit here and think to myself is it that they don’t understand us, or we just don’t take the time to listen and have real conversations? I’m not sure why but I’ve always been The type of girl who wants a male perspective on things. So, whenever I can I ask a man or multiple men that I know a question. Such as what makes a woman wife material?? They’ll break it down for me explaining what we think they want to know vs what they’re actually asking.

  • Can you pray for him when he can’t pray for himself?
  • Are you COMPASSIONATE?
  • Are you slow to anger when having a disagreement?
  • Do you respect him?
  • Can you love him unconditionally?
  • Are you selfless? And most importantly will you be a
  • Good mother to his children he plans to have in the future??

Women have such a long list of expectations/wants from a man but the question is…what will you, do you bring to the table??


Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other

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Good Men Do Exist

So by now y’all obviously know that I’m a Christian and have been for quite some time now. What y’all don’t know is that this is actually my second year truly living for him because I backslid. I backslid for many reasons but the main one was my issue with men. I didn’t hate them. I just didn’t know how to love, appreciate or talk to them because of the relationships I’ve seen growing up and always being teased by them because of my disability. But the lord has really been revealing things to me over these past 5months or so and I just wanted to share a little.

GOOD MEN DO EXIST!! I know Society has told us otherwise but good men do you still exist!! Faithful men, loving, men exist. Masculine men, protective men, respectful men still exist. Gentlemen…still exist. Men that will fight for you, Men that pray over you/speak life into you when you don’t know how you’re gonna make it another day. Husbands are on the way and they’re FIIINE!!! So get ready. Us women truly need to uplift the men in our life in every way we can. Doesn’t matter if he’s your brother, father, cousin, uncle, husband or just a friend. Tell that man how much you love and appreciate him. Make him feel like “THE MAN ” at all times even when he makes mistakes. If you grew up similar to me this may be a bit difficult for you to do. Around age 12 I adopted a masculine mind set as a defense mechanism. I didn’t want to be a boy or anything but I felt I had to be tough like them. This would be my first time ever away from home because I had surgery. If I got teased here my family wouldn’t always be there to defend me and crying just wasn’t an option. I had to protect myself by any means necessary. The way I did this was with my words. You weren’t going to say whatever you wanted to me and get away with it. This went for everyone, I didn’t care who you were. Hearing sayings like “ men ain’t shit”, “all men cheat”, men are dogs and my absolute favorite “I DON’T NEED A MAN.” Didn’t help much either. Your reason for adopting masculinity may be slightly different but I’m pretty sure the root of it for all of us is the same. Pain. Pain can really cause self destruction if left unaddressed and unfortunately that’s what most of us are taught in the black Community. We are taught not to cry because crying means we’re weak. Most of us are talked at, not talked to. We shut down because we feel judged instead of heard. So much goes into it. But I have GOOD NEWS!!! It’s not too late to be healed. It’s not too late to have joy and peace and not too late to have the life you’ve possibly always dreamed of. Healing doesn’t happen overnight, healing isn’t easy but it’s definitely worth it. You may be saying to yourself I’ve tried to heal, nothing worked. I’ve been there. I literally thought porn would take away my pain but all it did was become an addiction and distort my view of men even more. I’m not trying to force my believes on you in any way but the only thing that truly helped was when I finally stopped trying to fix myself, by myself and gave it to Jesus. I’m porn addiction free for 2 years. I am filled with peace even on my sad days and I’m learning how to love me so that I can love my baby when he comes❤️


Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other🤝

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You Are Called…Stop Running

“Sin doesn’t destroy your purpose it cages it

I don’t know who this is for but PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE understand God has a purpose for all of us and it’s time we stop running. I know it can get really difficult being a Christian in this day in age especially as a young person. We get laughed at, talked about and mocked for choosing Christ. We get told we think we’re better than others, we get told we’re being judgmental when all we’re trying to do is tell them the truth out of love and we sometimes lose relationships we thought we’d have forever. All of these things can be painful, discouraging and lonely at times but don’t give up. I promise your purpose is worth it. I know a lot of the time our purpose isn’t what we had planned for our lives, in fact in the beginning it’s usually the total opposite. His plan is way better then ours. Its not always gonna make sense and they’ll definitely be times where you won’t want to do what he said. Maybe you don’t feel worthy enough, struggling with shame/guilt from past mistakes. Whatever it may be…God is looking for mental health not mental agreement.… your purpose isn’t always your preference. Are you truly ready to let go and let God have his way?? Or are there still things holding you back?? This post is for me just as much as it is for the person on the other side of this screen. As a young Christian both in age and in my walk with Christ there are times I want to revert back to the old me because it’s what I’m used to. It’s easier. It’s my safe place. Even when it wasn’t invited anger was always something I could fall back on to protect and defend myself at all times. How am I supposed to give up the only thing that’s never left my side. The truth is I don’t know. Anger will probably always be a struggle for me. Some things God takes away immediately, some over time and some never. Not because he doesn’t want to or because he doesn’t love us but he knows that if he granted our wish of taking away the thing causing us to fall on our face in prayer we wouldn’t need him anymore. He has to keep some issues in us so we always need him. Although he may never take my issue with anger away completely, he gives tools to control it. Will I fail some days?? Yes, as will you in whatever you struggle with but it’s ok!! He sees us trying and that’s all he’s asking for. He knows perfect is something we could never be. Just focus on your relationship with him and he’ll do the rest. Don’t worry about what you’re friends and family members will think about you. I know I know that’s easier said than done but we must remember we were set apart for a reason. We got this!!


Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other🤝 

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God Is Answering My Prayers

“Even if this year is the same as last year I won’t be” Jackie Hill Perry

This was the opening to a caption Jackie wrote the beginning of the year. I don’t know why but when I read these words they just, I don’t know I can’t explain it, it’s like that was God’s message to me. A promise if you will. You see all of last year my prayer was to be bold like a woman by the name of Bevelyn Beatty in my faith. I’m nowhere near where she is but I’m not the lukewarm Christian I used to be year 1&2 of my walk. I used to be nervous to tell people I’m Christian because I don’t like confrontation but Christ wasn’t afraid to die for me on the cross!!! This year as made 4years and I plan to only get closer to my father. I was bold and outspoken in the world so why can’t I be that same way for Christ?? People’s opinions of me didn’t faze me then so why should they in Christ? The truth is I had the wrong understanding of what it means to be a Christian. I thought being Christian meant being quiet because if you weren’t you were being judgmental. I thought being quiet was the right way to love my neighbor. But the more I forced myself to be quiet the more I got ate up inside. I was so worried about misrepresenting him that I wasn’t representing him at all. Mans acceptance was unknowingly more wanted then Gods word. Bevelyn is teaching me to stand firm in what I believe and not care who doesn’t like it. This isn’t me thinking I’m better than anyone but I have a king to serve and if he says speak out I’m speaking out. A lot of Christians use their religion to be hateful but I will use my relationship with Jesus to win as many souls as possible. We have to meet people where they are not tear them down but also hold them accountable. With that being said I have a lot of content coming. Some more harsher than others but I promise all out of love ❤️ but I have to be honest and say it may not always feel that way. Be a Bevelyn Betty and always…

Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other🤝

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Be The Bigger Person

I don’t know who needs to read this but …be the bigger person. I know no one is supporting your dreams right now but…be the bigger person. I know people gave up on you when you needed them the most but…be the bigger person. People have laughed at you, talked behind your back and kicked you over and over again while you were down but…be the bigger person. This is easier said than done, trust me I know. In fact this is something I currently struggle with. I’m constantly in a situation where I have to be the forgiver and to be honest I hate it. To be honest, there are some days I don’t give a crap what the Bible says. Some days I find myself telling God straight up I’ll take whatever punishment he gives me. Because I don’t always want to forgive, walk away or let something go. I want to argue back, be mean and hurtful. I want to laugh when they’re down and say something like “ that’s what you get.” I want to make them feel so small but two wrongs don’t make a right. Be there bigger person. If you’re anything like me then you’ve had thoughts like “ keep that same energy when I make it, they better not ask me for shit” Stop thinking that way. Also easier said then done. We are Children of Christ which means we are representatives of and for his kingdom. This doesn’t mean we are perfect but it does mean that we may have to go against our feelings sometimes even though we have every right to justify them. Nor does it mean we’ll never fail. But we must try our best to Operate from can you place of love. Jesus himself didn’t want to die on the cross but he did anyway. He had every right to get down and walk away. Or point fingers but he didn’t. He even knew that some of us would never love him back and still gave his life. So why can’t we do the same?? Why can’t we forgive no matter how wrong they may have done us? Why do we always need to hurt them 10x worse?? As hard as it is I’m learning the true meaning of “ Let go and let God.” Doing this is far from easy especially for someone with a temper but it’s sooo worth it. There’s no better revenge then when Jesus gets it for you. He tells people over and over again not to touch his babies because they’ll regret it. So my siblings, when we do make it wherever he wants us to be remember to be humble. Don’t fall into the trap of cockiness, bitterness, hatred and malice. Instead do the opposite. Rise above. Be genuinely happy, let go of your pride and let God be God!!

Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other🤝 

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Invest In Yourself!!

Invest. When most people think of this word the first thing that often comes to mind is money. Want to be a homeowner some day? Invest in land. Want to be an entrepreneur? Invest in business and the most talked about is stocks. All of these things are good and I think we all should at some point in our life. But what if I told you that these aren’t the only things you should invest in. In fact I believe that before we invest in any of that, we should invest in something way more important and that is ourselves. You are worth so much more than material things. You are worth more than any car, house or business on this earth. Why? Because you my friend were created by God himself. When he created you he gave you your own gifts, dreams and purpose that only you can fulfill. Most of us had huge dreams for our lives as a child but somehow they died as we got older. It could’ve been because of your up bringing and the mindset you were taught to have , Society standards, your environment or the people around you. Be careful who you share your dreams with!! Not everyone wants to see you win. Some people will kill your dreams from the moment they hear about them including your very family. How do I know? Unfortunately this is something that has constantly happened to me as a child. Not just from my family but literally everyone around me. Everyone’s favorite question still to this day is. “ How? You’re in a wheelchair. ” Thanks for the reminder because even though I’m sitting right in front of you in it as you say that, I do have mornings that I forget. For years I allowed comments like these to affect me so much that I literally stopped dreaming. Even after giving my life to Christ. He would tell me to do things and I would always cancel myself out believing the lie of I’m not good enough. Until now. Unlike most people I’m actually grateful for this pandemic because it forced me to build my relationship with Jesus, to truly put my trust in him not on the things of this world. To find my identity in him and work on some of the issues and insecurities I have. It forced me to learn to love myself and not know that I’m pretty but believe it. This is an everyday journey but luckily I’m not alone. When I was 15 the lord blessed me by bringing my favorite person into my life. (I literally call him my favorite person) because he is. Lol. This man has impacted my life since day one. You see when he came into my life I was an angry, rebellious teenager who struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts. When everyone gave up on me he didn’t. When I gave up on myself he didn’t. When I fall he’s here to pick me back up. When I’m doubting myself he doesn’t allow me to stay there. He says I don’t but I know I annoy the hell out of him because ever since we reconnected I’m always in his DMs venting or asking questions. I promise it’s only because he gives AMAZING ADVICE. I mean the man should be a life coach, that’s how good he is. I’m not just saying that because I know him personally, I’m saying that because it’s true. Some of the things that I talk about on here are things that he’s personally walked wit me through or is still walking me through like today’s topic. Self love. As most of you know I grew up with a load of insecurities about myself because of my disability. I didn’t hate myself but I hated my life and had a deep dislike for myself if that makes sense?? His love for me reminds me of Jesus’s. Literally. I don’t understand it and definitely do not deserve it yet they give it so freely with no strings attached. The most they want is my love in return but even, on the days I may not be so good at it they love me anyway. And. I’m. Just. So. Thankful🥺

So, about self love. Obviously this is something I struggle or should I say struggled with. However, since he’s been back my self esteem has shot up tremendously. Especially within the past 2 months. My confidence is still a process but we’re taking it one day at a time. I wake up every day feeling beautiful even if my hair isn’t done. I’m nowhere near where I want to be in life but I’m starting to dress like I am. I’m not married yet but I set the table like I am. I didn’t want to be a blogger but I am and I think I’m doing pretty good for someone that’s literally learning as I go. The consistency could be better but I’m busy these days. The book has been getting all my attention lately because my favorite person knows about it and if he finds out I haven’t been writing I will not hear the end of it. Moral of the story, invest in you!! You don’t need Thousands of dollars to do this. Your self investment can be as simple as you reading one book every month, taking yourself on dates even if it’s in the house. Cook your favorite meal, put it on your good plate, you know the one you only take out for special occasions? With you good glass. Pour your favorite drink, whatever it may be and enjoy!! You want to be a dancer but don’t have the money to pay for dance lessons!! YouTube University. It’s the best school I’ve ever been to. I’m currently taking classes on learning how to play the keyboard and so far my professors are wonderful. I learned a song in my first week. I’m not joking. The bonus for me is if I don’t understand something I can always ask my favorite person who just so happens to play and he’ll help me. I’ll leave a video below so you can see him as well as his new song. (I hope it gets stuck in your head as much as it gets stuck in mine 🤪) But if you don’t have anyone that will help you that’s ok. Keep trying, don’t give up!! It doesn’t matter how many times you may have to stop, start, pause and rewind just keep going!! Yes it can become annoying and frustrating, you may even cry but in the end it’ll all be worth it. Start living the life you dream of now, even if you’re circumstances say otherwise. I believe the first step is changing your mindset. I believe if you can see it you can achieve it. You don’t need a bunch of people cheering you on. Sometimes you may have to walk alone for a season or two but pray and ask God for like minded people. He will send them. I don’t care whether it’s five people or one person. Learn to appreciate just being in their presence. Laugh, cry if you need to but most importantly grow together. One thing he always tells me is “Block out all negativity, don’t listen to The naysayers no matter who they are. Focus on loving yourself because self love is the best love.” This isn’t an overnight thing, it’s a journey. It’s like baby steps, you will fall sometimes but get back up.

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Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other🤝 

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What I’ve Learned About Blogging From Blogging

I started this blog back in June but haven’t really been consistent until now. Why?? I became discouraged, lacked motivation or just didn’t feel like working on a post. This year however I’ve decided to work on changing my attitude and work a little harder, showing some TLC. Some people say a blog is like a child but I say it’s like a spouse. You can’t expect your relationship to grow if you don’t meet your partner halfway right?? You can’t expect him or her to love you The way you need and desire but not do the same for them. Well, it’s the same thing with my blog. I get discourage because it’s harder than I thought or at the time no one was reading it but I would see other people who started around the same time I did with hundreds maybe even thousands of followers and compare myself. (Without even knowing their story)Wondering what are they doing that I am not. I even gave up a few times before this one because I felt I wasn’t good enough or like maybe this wasn’t what I am supposed to be doing. That was a lie from the pit of hell and I refuse to let this time, the third time turn out like the last two. So here I am my third time around, Two months of consistency with some things I’ve learned

1. Stop comparing yourself!!

Don’t compare yourself– I know it’s easier said than done but stop!! Comparison is the thief of joy. It is the work of the devil. Don’t believe me?? What is his number one job?? To kill steel and destroy. One of the ways he does this is by getting us to compare ourselves to others, if not in all many situations. By doing this we talk ourselves out of things, we belittle ourselves and we just ignore what God himself says about us and to us which is that he has an individual plan for each one of us. We can do all things through him as long as it lines up with his will. And if he promises something he will give it, not on our time though.

2. You learn as you go

When you first start blogging you most likely won’t know what you are doing, especially if you are new like I am. Coming into this I thought all I had to do was write because that’s essentially what I was told by non-bloggers and that’s pretty much what I assumed but the truth is it’s so much more than that. In another post I will share some things I wish I knew before embarking on this journey but what I will say is. If you want to take this serious someday do your research, just to be prepared for some of the trials and tribulations that will come your way.

3. Don’t be so hard on yourself

Blogging is not easy especially as a beginner. Trying to build your audience takes time. Be patient it’ll happen. If you feel yourself getting down because you’ve posted and did what felt like hours of endless promotion on all platforms and no one seems to care it’s OKAY….this doesn’t mean your writing isn’t good, maybe they weren’t meant for you and THATS OKAY!! Not everyone is gonna like you. But no matter what always remember to be your true authentic self. Those that are meant for you will eventually find their way. In the mean time in between time enjoy yourself, explore new topics to write about and just have fun.

4. Do it because you love it

Do it because you love it, I can’t reiterate this enough!! I’ve read stories of people who started a blog just for money. Some where successful in two months or less others took years. While I do hope to make money from Blogging someday it is not my main focus. I genuinely want to build a relationship with my followers, challenge their thinking and most importantly plant seeds of Christ. I’m not gonna lie I have my days where I wanna quit AGAIN because it’s hard but I think about all the lives I can help change whether it’s by Sharing my faith or making someone laugh with something I said in my many rants to come. Or simply just helping people see that they’re not alone. I will never be extremely vulnerable on here or any other platform because I’m a firm believer in keeping my life as private as possible. However if Jesus tells me to speak on something personal I will try my best to be very transparent because I believe that true transparency is the key to someone else’s freedom.

Well, that’s it for now with things I’ve learned About Blogging While Blogging. I hope this helps my fellow bloggers. No matter if you’re new to this or have been at it for a while remember to just have fun whether it’s for work or just for personal reasons have fun! Life is already stressful as it is why add more if we don’t need to??

Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other🤝

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Christian

Be careful (RANT)

As some of you may know I’m kinda, sorta still a baby in Christ. In fact this month is the month I accepted Christ 4years ago. A lot of things have happened since then. I’ve seen tremendous amount of growth within myself from day one but nothing like this past year and what’s happening currently. I’m going from this shy, lukewarm Christian to a Christian that calls a spade a spade it’s quite amusing if you ask me lol. It’s like One week I gain followers because of it and the the next I loose some because of it. Too bad my faith is in Christ and not IG/Twitter followers ✝️💪🏽 but speaking on calling A spade a spade let’s get to today’s post. Today if you don’t mind I’d like to go on a rant, The first of many to come because boy am I a thinker lol. Anyway today’s rant is about the church and how if we are not careful we can push others away from Jesus. Before I began I’d like to reiterate that I myself am new to the faith. I’m not writing this to judge others or say that I’m better than anyone because lord knows I’m not. Instead I’m here to talk about my personal experience with questioning if I really wanted to walk this walk.

I didn’t grow up in church but I didn’t grow up not knowing there is a God who had a son that we were supposed to pray to. I knew we weren’t supposed to question him and the adults couldn’t curse on Sundays because that’s his day. They never made it through one Sunday without cursing ever. I knew we couldn’t lie because he hates that. I knew God hates sin and we shouldn’t purposely do it. People told me all the things I couldn’t do but they never told me about temptation and just how real it is. Example: Growing up we are told that same-sex attraction is wrong but they never tell you what to do if you struggle with it. If they do they say things like “pray it away.” Now I personally never dealt with same sex attraction but I did however struggle with Porn, lust and I still struggle with anger. Coming to Christ I thought all my issues, struggles and pain would go away but what happens if they don’t? What happens if you’re 2years in your walk and you can’t shake the pornography? You’ve tried praying but it seems God doesn’t hear you. You’ve thought about confessing but you’re ashamed. You’ve tried just quitting cold turkey but that doesn’t work because something in your mind says you need it NOW. What do you do when you finally feel comfortable to confess to someone who’s supposed to be a sibling in Christ and they just judge you telling you to repent and ask for forgiveness because God doesn’t like that? As if you don’t already know this. 🙄 I was there and believe me when I tell you it’s not an easy place to be. Luckily when I decided to tell this person my relationship with Christ was sturdy enough. But not everyone’s is and if you’re not careful that one wrong thing you say can send them running. I didn’t run but I did feel discouraged, sad and like there was no use in even trying. Today I’m sooo proud to say I’m completely free from my addiction and have been for 2years!! What would’ve happened if I’d let his words get to me? He didn’t know I cried every day begging God to take it away. I strongly, wholeheartedly Believe in holding people accountable and calling them out on their sin but I believe it’s Important to meet them where they are in their faith. Isn’t the church supposed to be a hospital for the broken? I don’t know about you but I believe in building people up not tearing them down. Someone may read this and say “Well, the truth hurts.” You’re right but I believe it has a lot to do with a persons delivery. Believe it or not you can tell the truth in love.

To the newborn Christians. Welcome to the family!! I’m sooo proud of you for taking this step!! Now it won’t be easy but it’s worth it. You’re friends and family may leave you or tell you that you think you’re better than them. You may have Super religious Christian in one ear and lukewarm in the other. Even some nonbelievers but always…
Remember it’s about relationship neach of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other🤝

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