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Starting from scratch

So I had a blog already, this is actually my third…yes third but I don’t count the first because I literally put zero effort. I literally made two post and got discouraged after a month because no one read them so bye bye it went. “No one told me blogging would be sooo difficult!!” Now the second one is a different story. I put work into it, I was actually starting to enjoy blogging. I think I got a little to happy/comfortable. I started remodeling trying make it feel more inviting. I tried to be fancy and add another blog into my already existing one and well I. Don’t. Want. To. Talk. About it. 🤦🏽‍♀️you see it wasn’t adding the second blog that was the problem it was trying to make them both public is where i managed to fuck everything up! Don’t ask how because hell if I know but I have one of two options. One continue to be pissed or get up and try again. After all they do say third times the charm right?? So with that being said

Hey guys!! welcome to Rolling with Kiki. I’ll be sharing my life both as wheelchair a user and most importantly as a Christian. I’m not perfect, far from it but Jesus is. It’s been a long road and has been far from easy but I’m happy to share where he has brought me from and who I am becoming🦋 I love that I gave my life to Christ when I did. In these 3years I’ve learned so much about myself. Two things I’m currently learning is what god himself says about me and what my gifts are. Thank you god for the gifts you have placed inside of me, thank you for paying me no mind when I swore up and down I wasn’t good enough. I hope that my stories and full, raw transparency help you in one way or another

Disclaimer: I do curse there is this rule that Christians aren’t supposed to curse but God is still working on me

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Be careful (RANT)

As some of you may know I’m kinda, sorta still a baby in Christ. In fact this month is the month I accepted Christ 4years ago. A lot of things have happened since then. I’ve seen tremendous amount of growth within myself from day one but nothing like this past year and what’s happening currently. I’m going from this shy, lukewarm Christian to a Christian that calls a spade a spade it’s quite amusing if you ask me lol. It’s like One week I gain followers because of it and the the next I loose some because of it. Too bad my faith is in Christ and not IG/Twitter followers ✝️💪🏽 but speaking on calling A spade a spade let’s get to today’s post. Today if you don’t mind I’d like to go on a rant, The first of many to come because boy am I a thinker lol. Anyway today’s rant is about the church and how if we are not careful we can push others away from Jesus. Before I began I’d like to reiterate that I myself am new to the faith. I’m not writing this to judge others or say that I’m better than anyone because lord knows I’m not. Instead I’m here to talk about my personal experience with questioning if I really wanted to walk this walk.

I didn’t grow up in church but I didn’t grow up not knowing there is a God who had a son that we were supposed to pray to. I knew we weren’t supposed to question him and the adults couldn’t curse on Sundays because that’s his day. They never made it through one Sunday without cursing ever. I knew we couldn’t lie because he hates that. I knew God hates sin and we shouldn’t purposely do it. People told me all the things I couldn’t do but they never told me about temptation and just how real it is. Example: Growing up we are told that same-sex attraction is wrong but they never tell you what to do if you struggle with it. If they do they say things like “pray it away.” Now I personally never dealt with same sex attraction but I did however struggle with Porn, lust and I still struggle with anger. Coming to Christ I thought all my issues, struggles and pain would go away but what happens if they don’t? What happens if you’re 2years in your walk and you can’t shake the pornography? You’ve tried praying but it seems God doesn’t hear you. You’ve thought about confessing but you’re ashamed. You’ve tried just quitting cold turkey but that doesn’t work because something in your mind says you need it NOW. What do you do when you finally feel comfortable to confess to someone who’s supposed to be a sibling in Christ and they just judge you telling you to repent and ask for forgiveness because God doesn’t like that? As if you don’t already know this. 🙄 I was there and believe me when I tell you it’s not an easy place to be. Luckily when I decided to tell this person my relationship with Christ was sturdy enough. But not everyone’s is and if you’re not careful that one wrong thing you say can send them running. I didn’t run but I did feel discouraged, sad and like there was no use in even trying. Today I’m sooo proud to say I’m completely free from my addiction and have been for 2years!! What would happened if I’d let his words get to me? He didn’t know I cried every day begging God to take it away. I strongly, wholeheartedly Believe in holding people accountable and calling them out on their sin but I believe it’s Important to meet them where they are in their faith. Isn’t the church supposed to mean a hospital for the broken? I don’t know about you but I believe in building people up not tearing them down. Someone may read this and say “Well, the truth hurts.” You’re right but I believe it has a lot to do with a persons delivery. Believe it or not you can tell the truth in love.

To the newborn Christians. Welcome to the family!! I’m sooo proud of you for taking this step!! Now it won’t be easy but it’s worth it. You’re friends and family may leave you or tell you that you think you’re better than them. You may have supper religious Christian in one ear and lukewarm in the other. Even some nonbelievers but always…
Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other🤝

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How blogging has change my life in just two months

My blog would’ve turned 1 years old this month had it not been for my mess up but believe it or not I’m actually happy that it happened. Don’t get me wrong in the moment I was extremely annoyed and frustrated and to be honest a part of me wanted to cry. Because unlike the first one I put in effort, I actually had followers. A small amount but some is better than none right?? The thing is Jesus was nowhere in it. I literally came into this with the wrong mindset and heart. I came into this looking to just make money. I wasn’t worried about planting seeds of Christ in people or sharing the gospel. I came into this selfish, blind and greedy. I knew absolutely nothing about what it takes to be a real blogger. Nothing about the time it takes to write post and the promotion part, boy the promotion. Trying to get yourself out there is a whole other story and something I think should be talked about more because babyyy if you’re not careful this thing could take a toll on you. We can talk about my experience with that another time because today I wanna talk about how being consistent with blogging over these past 2 months has changed my life. Blogging isn’t something I ever dreamed of, ever. In fact when I was in high school a teacher of mine wanted me to start one sooo bad. I’m not joking. Literally every morning when I can into her class before even saying good morning she’d ask “Did you start that blog yet??” She would always tell me I have a lot to say and I could help a lot of people by sharing my story. Of course I brushed her off thinking she lost her mind. I knew what my calling was but I didn’t wanna do it. I didn’t wanna be vulnerable, I didn’t wanna share my struggles because no one needs to know my business. Here I am 7 years later wishing I listened. Not only would I have more followers but more souls could’ve been touched. I wasn’t living for Christ yet but at least one person could know that they aren’t alone, you know? Since starting this blog I’ve met all types of people. Annoying people that have nothing better to do with themselves so they comment under your picture or tweet saying something Irrelevant to anything or just flat out stupid. Then you got those people who mean well but you can do without their feedback. Then you got the really amazing supportive people who you feel like you’ve known forever and you haven’t even met They encourage, motivate and even hold you accountable if you let them. I enjoy almost every bit of it. Y’all know I struggle with people who think they can just say whatever and get away with it but the lord is working on me and I’ve been doing an amazing job ignoring them(yayyy me)🤣🤣 My favorite part about this whole experience though is the people who tell me thank you. I’ve had two people with family members who have/had disabilities and tell me that my story hits home for them in some kind of way. It’s refreshing!! It’s like you know you’re not alone but sometimes, a lot of times you fee like you are. You know what I mean?

Since starting this blog my purpose has become clearer to me. I now see why I was born like this. I see why I went through the things I’ve gone through. I see why it’s sooo important to share your story and I’m so excited to finish my book so you all can see where Jesus has brought me from!!!🙌🏽😍✝️🦋🙈🙏🏽



Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other🤝

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5 Things You Should Know About People With Disabilities

As most of you know I was born with a disability. For those of you that don’t, yes I was born with a disability. I don’t wanna give to much away because I’m writing a book where I’ll be discussing the name, how I got it ect. I believe everything happens for a reason and God is in control so yes I believe God himself purposely gave me this disability. You’ll have to read the book to find out why I say that and how exactly did I get to this mindset. It was quite the roller coaster if I don’t say so myself. One that I thought I’d never get off to be honest. But here I am 26 years later doing things I never thought I would. Seriously, if you would have told me I’d have a blog or be writing a book I would’ve looked at you like you lost you mind because who’s putting their life out for the public?? Not me… so I thought. Anyway let’s get to the post.

Let me just start by saying this post isn’t to condemn, shame or bash anyone but to do the exact opposite. I truly hope this post Will help change the perspective you have when it comes to People in wheelchairs or with disabilities in general.

1. We are human just like you

I understand that the person with the disability may be the first person you’ve ever met like this but please understand that again, we are human just like you. We eat, cry, laugh, poop and pee just like you.

2. Stop Telling Me That I’m pretty for a girl in a wheelchair:

Having to use a wheelchair for the majority of my life I’ve learned how to ignore People and their ignorant comments. For the most part that is, I’d be lying though if I said that there aren’t some that just irritate me. I AM NOT PRETTY FOR A GIRL IN A WHEELCHAIR, I AM A PRETTY GIRL WHO HAPPENS TO BE IN A WHEELCHAIR. My chair has absolutely nothing to do with my face. Neither does the actual disability. But even if it did it still has nothing to do with the chair. So please stop, I know you think it’s a complement but I promise you it isn’t

3. Ask questions if you have any

Quit staring it’s not polite!! If you have a question just ask. It honestly blows my mind how adults stare more than children. Like seriously y’all be 40+ Breaking your neck just to stare. Then when I speak saying Hi or asking can I help you you’re in a state of shock. Just ask a question if you have one.

4. Just because I’m disabled doesn’t mean my boyfriend/ husband has to be!!

Another thing that irritates me is the assumption that people with disabilities are only supposed to be attracted to other people with disabilities. I just have one question, who came up with this and why do y’all all believe it? If I want to date a Christian Keyes or a Morris Chestnut I’ll do that. It doesn’t matter as long as God approves. I bet you’d be surprised to know that most people in chairs prefer to date the opposite. We can choose to date whoever we want, how we want, when we want that’s our business.

5. Don’t ask stupid questions!!

I know, I know I just told you to ask questions if you have any and I really do want you too. I’d love to have a genuine conversation but don’t ask dumb questions. An example of a dumb question is “ How are you going to love him in that chair?” Or how do you like him? He can walk and you can’t.” First off I want to personally thank you for bringing my own disability to my attention. Seriously thank you for telling me because some mornings I do forget. Secondly now that you reminded me I want you to know that again I am human. Most humans have feelings I happen to be one of them. Sorry to break it to you but the chair has nothing to do with those. So to answer your question I’ll love him just as the Bible says I should.

Again this post isn’t to bash anyone. Over the years and through personal encounters with many of you guys, I’ve realized that The majority of you are unaware of your ignorance. Most of you don’t even realize that some of the things you say or do can be very offensive but I sincerely hope this helps educate as well as changes your perspective when you see us!!



Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other🤝

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Run to the Father (Thrive. A 14-Day Devotional) Day 6

Lonely

Where do you find satisfaction when you’re lonely? Where do you turn when you can’t stand another day of living all by yourself? Some turn to food for comfort. Others binge on Netflix. Some of us even try to fill the hole in our soul with spiritual activity. We join yet another Small Group and hope that by staying busy we’ll forget about our loneliness. But if you’re looking for answers for your loneliness, it’s time to stop trying to numb yourself or feed yourself or fend for yourself. While loneliness is painful, God’s presence is your only hope for healing. He’s the answer that will fill the hole in your soul when you find yourself alone. He’s always closer than you think and He’ll never let you down. He’s promised to never leave you nor forsake you and He’s just a whisper away. Instead of running from your loneliness, why not start seeing in your loneliness an invitation into God’s presence? You’ll find him far better than you ever imagined Him to be. He’s the rock you can always run to.

Questions: 

What do you do when you’re lonely? Where do you turn for comfort? Can you think about the times you’re most prone to loneliness and make a plan to turn to God’s word during those times instead?

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New Year, New Mindset!!

Ok so I’m pretty sure we’re all familiar with the saying “New Year, new me.” It’s everybody’s thing from about December to mid February. Everyone around you or maybe even you yourself is talking about all the things you’re going to change once the ball drops but a week or two in your still doing everything you said you weren’t. I know things don’t happen overnight but you’re not even trying to change. Your still gossiping about others you claim to not like. Your attitude is still horrible, you’re mean to everyone for no reason, the list goes on. I’m sooo happy and proud to say I’ve never been that girl. New Year’s resolutions was never my thing in fact I always hated when I was younger and my family would make me set them because I just always felt they were stupid. Yes I have things I want to accomplish but I don’t wait for the ball to drop. If I really want to do or change something I start working towards it today. It could be August that I think of something, I’m not waiting until January 1st to start whatever it is. This is not a post to bash anyone at all if New Year’s resolutions work for you then continue. For me, they don’t. If I’m honest they always caused me to be extremely hard on myself especially when I didn’t meet them by the time that year was finished. If you’ve read my blog you know that something I’ve always struggled with is confidence. Now I’ve only talked about how growing up with a disability affected the way I so myself meaning always thinking I was ugly but I haven’t shared the affect it had on me mentally. Growing up I was always told I couldn’t do something because I’m in a chair and even though I often did what other said I couldn’t over the years I developed this toxic, untrue mindset. When something was too hard I’d tell myself I can’t do it. For sooo long …too long I allowed other people and my wheelchair to hold me back but if 2020 taught me one thing it was that I can do ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST and who he crated me to be. 2021 I’m showing out because Jesus said I’m beautifully and wonderfully made. 2020 was an amazing year for me but it ain’t got nothing on 2021. I’m going places!!!!! Even if I gotta leave the chair behind ✌🏽🤷🏽‍♀️🙏🏽✝️.


Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other🤝

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God had other plans (Thrive. A 14-Day Devotional Day 5)

Expectations

If I’m being honest, I would have to admit that never in my life did I imagine I would write a book about singleness let alone have a daily radio spot for singles. Deep down I suppose I expected I’d be married someday – eventually. The last thing I wanted was to be a card-carrying leader of the “singles for life” club. Yet here I am today doing what I’m doing and loving every minute of it. Expectations can be devastating if you don’t watch out. Maybe you never imagined your life to be what it is today. You thought things would turn out differently. You assumed you’d be married, have kids, get the dog. You get the gist. As you look at your life, you admit that you didn’t see it coming. When our expectations don’t match our reality, the result can be painful. Sometimes our hope in the Lord might even falter. In Psalm 62:5 David teaches us how to best deal with unfulfilled expectations. Here’s what he concluded: “My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him”. David knew that it is only when we learn to put our expectations in God alone that we will find true and lasting joy. David understood that the only way to thrive is to put all of our eggs in the basket of our good, good Father. Today, are you willing to try?

Questions: 

As you consider your life, what did you expect it to look like by now? Take some time and pour your heart to the Lord over your unfulfilled expectations.

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Surrender All Things (Thrive. A 14-Day Devotional) Day 4)

Happy new year!!! Wow it’s 2021…we made it. I’m proud of us lol😁😁I know most of the world would prefer to skip 2020 and act like it never existed. I completely understand why they feel this way. COVID/ quarantine was a life changer for us all. It’s what we do in and what we take away from these unexpected life changes that make us or break us. Quarantine has changed my life for the better. Yes in the beginning I was losing my mind literally but this experience has done nothing but force me to strengthen my relationship with God and surrender things to him that I never knew I needed to surrender like my sexuality. Many People assume that this is something only a homosexual has to do but I’m here to tell you that you’re wrong. I won’t get into it now because the lord is still revealing things to me on this topic as well as dealing with me on this topic in my personal life. So when he is finished and says it is time I will share but for now, I hope you are enjoying this devotional and other blog post. I’ve talked enough. Stayed toon, I have so many post planned for 2021. I’m excited to just try to be consistent this year lol. Here’s day 4 of the devotional

Self Control

It’s been over 50 years since the sexual revolution of the 60s, and one thing is for sure: anything goes when it comes to our generation’s perspective on human sexuality. “If it feels good, do it” is no longer anyone’s mantra because it’s a given. Even within the church people’s perspective on sexuality seems to have taken a life of its own. One statistic reports over 60% of single Christians are sexually active. If you’ve read God’s point of view on sexuality, then you should be scratching your head in wonder. How could that be? It’s actually not as complicated as you might imagine. When push comes to shove, the heart of the issue is what’s at the heart of the matter. Who gets to decide what’s right for you? Do you make your own choices or are you yielded to the Holy Spirit every step of the way? Will you give your sexuality over to your hormones or will you dedicate this part of your life to the God who created your sex drive? In 1 Corinthians 6, Paul reminds us that as followers of Jesus Christ, we’ve been bought with a price. We’re no longer our own. But it all boils down to surrender. Who’s in control of your body? Are you calling the shots or is God in control of your life? There’s so much at stake here, especially when it comes to your sexuality?

Questions: 

What specific areas of your sexuality do you need to surrender to the Lord? What are some practical steps you need to take to give God control of your body?

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In his presence (Thrive. A 14-Day Devotional (Day 3)

Freedom

They say one of the greatest gifts of being single is the gift of freedom. By “they” I mean Paul who was speaking for God through the inspiration of the Holy Spirit! But what exactly is this freedom Paul spoke so keenly about? Is it the freedom to do what I want to do when I want to do it? While that might be the case for most single people in the world, true freedom for the single Christian is so much more than that. True freedom is more than financial stability or a great education. It’s more than a passport with plenty of stamps in it. And it’s certainly more than the freedom to date around and maximize sexual experiences. True freedom is more than the color of your skin or the power of your position. True freedom, you see, is a person. His name is Jesus and He died to set you free. In Galatians 5:1 Paul describes this freedom we have in Christ, and in 1 Corinthians 7 he applies it specifically to singleness. Our advantage as single Christians is that we can use our freedom to give God our undivided attention and unencumbered wills. Our privilege as single Christians is that we can focus our freedom completely on the very one who set us free and that is the greatest freedom you and I will ever receive.

Questions: 

What will you do with the freedom that was bought for you by the blood of Jesus? How will you spend your days serving the Lord with the freedom you’ve been given as a single Christian?

Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other

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Focus On The What Not The Why (Thrive. A 14-Day Devotional) Day 2

Purpose

Why God, why? Have you ever been tempted to ask God this question? One of the most common and hardest question you and I will ask God is this: “Why God, why is this happening to me?” When it comes to our singleness, sooner or later most of us will stop and ask God why. Why haven’t you provided a partner for me, Lord? Why haven’t you answered my prayers? Why am I still waiting? Why won’t you take away my desire to get married? The surest way to fall into self-pity and misery is to keep on asking why. The surest way to keep from thriving is to get stuck in the why. When it comes to God and His ways, there’s another question we should be asking. It is this question: “What, Lord, what?” What would you like me to do with the rest of my life? What are you trying to teach me about who you are in this trial? In Psalm 18:30 David reminds us that our God, His way is perfect. His word proves true. God has a purpose for your life and it doesn’t hinge on your dating status. You’re not plan B. God hasn’t made a mistake in your life. He knows what He’s doing and has a plan for you even inyour singleness. If you’re stuck asking the question why, it might be time to turn to the Lord and start asking him what he is trying to accomplish through you even in your singleness.

Questions:

Are you asking the Lord why or are you asking him what? Could God have a purpose for you even in your singleness? How does that change your whole attitude about your life?

Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other

If my post help you in any way feel free to dm me and share https://www.instagram.com/justask_kiki/ and remember god loves us so much that he sacrificed his only son

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Sister shenanigans written by my 9 year old sister

Hi my name is tt and I am the annoying lilltle sister of Kiki and I like bother her for fun and sometime I get on her nerves and we sand by each other’s side except when I am sleep. people say we look like twins (No one says this but her😂😂yes we look alike but no one ever says twins)but she’s seventeen years older then me and I am only nine years old.

And we always talk, sometimes we argue and then we get back together again sometime we make cookies and we also try to shape them but it turns out bad looking but we do make corn bread and hot wings , salmon , chicken, and we do other things like writing a blog together witch is what we are doing now. One day we was watching a movie that she fell asleep on and when I woke her up she felt like was falling. That was classic .

Remember each of our journeys are different don’t let anyone discourage you on yours!!! God can and will use people from all walks of life to help each other

If my post help you in any way feel free to dm me and share https://www.instagram.com/justask_kiki/ and remember god loves us so much that he sacrificed his only son